I’d like to dedicate this Valentine’s day to someone I recently got to know better. Like all great love stories, our relationship did not start out easy. Despite all the fairytales you’ve heard, it wasn’t love at first sight. In fact, it was rough for so many years. How we met is a blur, but we had great memories. Over time, instead of seeing the good, the potential, and how I could fall in love with this person, I decided to make our relationship complicated. I demanded highly and sabotaged this relationship many times without ever appreciating it for what it is, til it got too intense. Too unhealthy it ended up hurting all areas of my life.
So recently for the first time, I chose to stop criticizing and fighting with this person. Why? Because this person, despite my temper and often unrealistic expectations, still shows me the greatest kind of love — love that is patient, relentless, and forgiving.
This person, with all sorts of flaws and limitations, has shown me all the beauty of life, whose feet traveled the world for me, whose heart loved and cared for others, and whose eyes and mind have gotten me to where I am today, without ever asking for much. Not to say these 10 little fingers, though fragile, have introduced me to a lifelong passion for technology, writing, arts, and so much more. So for the first time in 26 years, I finally learned to understand her. Yes it took me this long to meet her where she is, but I am so grateful and proud to reach this point.
If it’s not already obvious, this person is me. This short love letter is a reflection of how much I want to speak up about the importance of self-awareness and how it can improve our mental and physical health, after months of undergoing tough times myself (tough is an understatement).
I will not stay shut about destigmatizing mental health issues, like anxiety and depression, because we don’t often realize the value of our health until it’s too late and we fall ill. So please, take a good care of yourself and respect yourself enough by setting healthy boundaries, however much you need them. I hope that you find both gratitude and joy around all the big and little things in your life on this very special day.
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